Rumer Willis is opening up about the pressure she felt as a teenager for not having lost her virginity.
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Consent is a topic that has been present in my life and in conversation more than ever and while it is so hard to talk about it, It is important to speak your truth. There is no gray area. Thank you @Jadapinkettsmith @willowsmith @adriennebanfieldnorris for the safe and loving space to discuss such a sensitive and important subject. @redtabletalk
Rumer Willis Opens Up About Losing Virginity
The new clip from the upcoming episode of Red Table Talk talks about the topic of sexual consent.
The 32-year-old, revealing that she had slept with an “older man” who “took advantage” of her the actress was currently 18-year-old at that time and felt pressured to take the notch before she was ready.
Willis said: “When I lost my virginity when I was 18, I was more concerned with the shame I was feeling at not having done it. I was not abused, or it wasn’t rape, but I didn’t say yes. I wasn’t gung-ho about it — but I also didn’t say no.”View this post on Instagram
….and I’ll call you sir . . . This series I created with Tyler is about reclaiming the female form. Whether clothed or not, as women our bodies are constantly policed and dictated over by men and by other women. We are told what we can and cannot wear based on our size and shape or others beliefs about what is acceptable or appropriate. We are told what we need to look like to be considered beautiful. We are told if we dress a certain way we are “asking for it” or if we are more covered up we are prude or unexpressed. We are told our sexuality and expression of that sexuality is something we should ashamed of, something we should keep to ourselves. We are persecuted for our right to choose when to become a mother, or to become one at all. We are kept from access to birth control, places to get information about sexual health and contraceptives are defunded. The lineage of women who have fought with their lives to progress women’s rights sacrificed everything to get us to where we are today and we are still miles away from any sort of equality. My body and my right to my divine femininity will not be policed or suppressed by anyone… man or woman. . This idea that when other women are naked it means they don’t respect themselves —- us being naked or sexual is automatically assumed as being done for a man out of self loathing and insecurity and it’s such bullshit. we can be sexual for us. We can be naked for us. We can be tied up for us. People think telling women to not be naked and “respect themselves” is feminist but it’s really just centering men once again in the assumption that everything you are doing is for them. I want to say to anyone that has suffered abuse or was triggered by these photos because of past trauma my only intention was that of celebration and empowering the female form but I understand for some this could bring up the opposite. Know that I see you and I respect you and wish to hold you and your stories with the upmost reverence and respect. This was not for any man. This was for me. It was about exploration and taking back power in my right to choose. I support any woman’s right to express their sensuality, sexuality, self.
The actress continued, “I just let it happen. He was older and took advantage and didn’t check-in. That’s what I feel like the man’s responsibility is. No means no, but what if you can’t say no?” as Jada Pinkett Smith and daughter Willow Smith listened.
Also, guests Amber Rose and Deandre Levy talk about approval on Tuesday’s episode of the Facebook Watch series.
Adrienne Banfield-Norris Talks About Sexual Consent
Pinkett Smith, also openly talks about the subject with her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Norris, during the chat. Her mother revealed that she had had non-consensual experiences with her husband, Pinkett Smith’s father.
Pinkett asked her mother, “So, Gam, you feel like nowhere in your history in regards to sexual intimacy have you felt like you had a sexual experience that was not necessarily consensual?”
Her mother consented, saying, “I have, I have, but it was also with my husband. Your dad. So that’s gray.”
Halting, Pinkett Smith analyzed, “You’re saying you had non-consensual sex with my father,” to which her mother yet agreed.
FYI: Banfield-Norris married the actress’ father, Jr. Robsol Pinkett. As. Also, she becomes pregnant with Pinkett Smith in high school. The two eventually separated ways after several months.